Sharing: Autonomy is Key

Sariah asked if she could ride Jane’s bike. Jane’s reply, very upbeat and serious? “Yes, someday.”
A little while later Jane was putting it in the garage and I asked her if Riah could ride it now that she wasn’t. Again, very positive, very upbeat, but still very firm, “She can ride it someday. Not today.”
It only […]

Don’t See Me

Jane’s latest amusement involves hiding somewhere — somewhere very obvious, obvious to the point of throwing a blanket over her head while I’m watching, and then saying, “Mom, come find me.”
But I’m not allowed to find her right away. Nooooo, how dare I?
“Don’t see me!” she will fume.
I’m supposed to search the room inside out, becoming more and […]

Wanting Patience

Today was a great day and now the older girls are in bed (and the baby is hooked on) (rather permanently, I’m afraid), but our days are not always blissful and I want to go ahead and dispel any myths about that, in case my depressing post a few days ago wasn’t enough to do that. […]

Chop, Chop

This is much shorter than I ever intended. But this is what happens when a crazy do-it-yourself mama takes scissors to her poor trusting daughter’s hair.

It’s cute, if only because she’s so darn cute. I didn’t know what the heck I was doing, and it’s pretty obvious when it isn’t all curled up. Click the picture […]

Jane Needs Touch. Re: Love Languages.

I haven’t read the Love Languages book (he has one for children too), but if I had to classify my three-year-old into one of the five categories, hers would definitely be physical touch.
She expresses everything this way. She is very cuddly and has always been one to caress my face with her hands and just generally […]

Christmas

I know it’s New Years; I have no excuse for my perennial lateness.
Oh wait, yes I do. In the form of three small children. So there!
But look, I uploaded some Christmas fun to Flickr.

(Click any of the pictures to get through to Flickr.)
We got the girls a whole bunch of Polly Pockets. (Gotta love Craigslist.)

I helped the girls make […]

Backtracking a bit

So I made use of a little hyperbole in that last post, and I don’t want it to reflect badly on Jane — she isn’t really oppositional to anything and everything. Well, the “anything” part is true because it doesn’t really matter if it’s something she would normally want to do or not — if she’s in mode:resist (or […]

Not Listening = Feeling Safe?

So I twittered about how I was getting a little annoyed at Jane’s seemingly constant opposition to anything and everything I wanted her to do, and how Matt noticed my annoyance and pulled me aside to remind me: “She feels safe with you. If she didn’t feel safe, she would just do whatever you said […]

Mothering Group. Also, It Snowed.

I went to a little Mothering meeting the church ladies have started. It was so wonderful. I mean, the topic was parenting, so already you know I’m excited, and I love, love, love getting together with other women to chat and share about our lives — my homeschooling group of moms has a get-together too and it […]

Giving Advanced Warning

Last time I told Sariah the pumpkin she decorated was going the way of the earth, she broke into hysterics (as she is prone to do some of the time). So tonight when I noticed another decorative pumpkin was ready for the compost pile, I remembered to give her a little advanced noticed.
I told her […]